When Healing Becomes Destructive

healing musings Sep 22, 2020

Spiritual healing is in my opinion, a necessary part of any healthy life and therefore, must be talked about when it comes to self-care. It's the process of understanding and more importantly, accepting who we truly are. It can also be the process of healing old wounds that prevent us from achieving our highest potential. It is clearing blocks created by ourselves and/or the environment so that we can have the freedom to find happiness, love, compassion, and strength. 

When used correctly, the process of healing can make all the difference between a mediocre life and a life that is rich with abundance and joy. When used incorrectly, the process of healing can become addictive and destructive... no different from the abuse of drugs or alcohol. Some people are addicted to playing the victim so that they have something to heal. They suffer from always needing to be the "wounded healer". The more they have suffered, the more they feel justified in their need to help others. 

Healers need experience of course but purposefully placing yourself in challenging situations is not the way, especially when it becomes a fix you need to keep going. A perfect example would be someone who purposefully goes after the unattainable relationship. You attach yourself to someone you know you can never be with in the name of playing the victim. 

This choice can be a conscious choice but is often a pattern of behavior one is not aware one has. It’s important, to be honest with yourself about the need to create chaos simply to facilitate healing. Trust me when I say, most of us come into our lives with more than enough to heal for a lifetime. We all have family baggage, most of which spans over the course of generations. Many of us have karmic debt, social conditioning, traumas, poor habits, etc. There are few people, if any, who are completely free from drama and baggage to heal. 

Take a few moments to consider whether or not you are calling chaos into your life in a subconscious way; thinking it gives you more experience. Or perhaps you know someone like this. Someone who is always creating drama for what seems like no reason or always has some sort of "end of the world" story. 

Being honest with yourself is also a form of self-care. You need to know what a problem is before you can address it. Having awareness of victimhood provides you with a choice to do better next time or better yet, to catch the behavior beforehand.


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